It has been a long time in my mind that having 'bibik' has more cons than pros and I wished if it came to an option I would do without one. Coming from a family who never had a maid until recently, since my mother lives alone, it is quite easy to see why I do not prefer one. However I am not saying that I hate them, no!, but rather I find it inconvenient.
Why?
1. Bibik tend to misplace things
Also it doesn't help that I am very picky with my stuff. If you were to be my roommate/housemate/schoolmate/soulmate, you'll prolly notice that I am very allergic to people rearranging my stuff. I understand it is the 'bibik's' duty but I can simply accept that.
"Bibik, mana seluar saya"
"Enggak tahu pak."
-.-"
2. Bibik tend to spoil you.
Lazy and lazier. However I admit that I have cousins that are very disciplined and independent although they grew up in a house with a bibik. I also believe there are more families that share the same story. Yes, yes, it is all in the way a child is brought up but my personal opinion is that without a bibik, a child(or even adult) have less chance of growing up to be a brat.
3. Affection does not grow overnight.
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The trend is not observable in Malaysia but I feel that having bibik has mild similarity as it seems that parents hold their children less, no? It is the parents who raise the children through daily works and jobs, but it is the bibik who seems to be nurturing the child. Lihat saja perkataan-perkataan awal anak-anak kini. My niece and nephew as a close example.
Amna- bisa aja
Amirul - okoknya(pokoknya), aduuhh
Once again I emphasize I do not hate or dislike them by any way, as I understand that Indonesian maids play an important role in household this days, hence supporting the country, but it is just that I feel should the decisions for me arrives, I'll do without one due to reasons above.
What say you? Do you prefer having a maid and if you do/don't, why?
yea.
ReplyDeleteive never lived w/o one.
met with lotsa versions of strangeness XD
some wouldnt do anything, unless you tell them to.
some would do everything, and that means throwing away almost everything on sight -_-
i think the ones spoiled most are my brothers. ahaha. when our bibik went balik kampung, i had to become their bibik -_-
here its even worse.
the wealthy ones have each children his/her own maid ^^!
never lived with once, mom stopped working once i popped out, so i cant comment on bibiks. maybe that's why i'm super attached to my mom and dad. dont know.
ReplyDeleteabout the child strap. i saw it twice already in malaysia! one used by a local mom, another by a mat salleh. me and my mom was having a discussion about it just recently. and both of us just dont anything wrong with it! child at that age likes to experiment with their walking. so i'd say, i'd rather let them roam free and enjoy MY own walk without having to run after my child all the time ;)
never seen malaysian using childstrap yet but i'm not against its usage. I agree with azra and I think the child can move more freely with strap attached than without and the mom doesn't have to shout orders all the time so that the child stays within watching distance. Just imagine a mom shopping excitedly during a sale and at the same time has to closely watch a child. I think that's too much to ask. Or maybe it's better to shop without the child's presence? Then nak tinggal kat sape pulak? The maid? kan dah susah tu...
ReplyDeleteWe used to have maids and now that we don't I wish we still had one. It isn't easy to survive without a maid if both parents are working. Balik rumah lepas keje mana ada mood nak kemas2 rumah ni. weekends pulak nak berehat. kalau kemas2 rumah yang biasa takpe. nak berus2 sental2 tu yang malas tu. Yes I'm spoiled. XD
I have never like the leashes. I think parenting isn’t just about providing safety, it includes giving adequate attention and care. I encountered parents using it several times… and found out, it doesn’t just look foreign and awful, it also gives an excuse for parents to be less attentive to the child. Its apart of being parents that you need to be watchful of your children. Oh ckp mmg senang! Haha
ReplyDeleteThere isn’t much to be said about bibik as I also grew up without one. But I know about this service which you can get the bibik to come like every twice a week. The bibik doesn’t live with the family, but does all the house chores during her visits, that excludes, cooking, babysitting and ofc, taking care of the husband. I think it’s pretty good because she only deals with the basic households duty and not involve in the family matters. After all, I think, having a bibik does help to ease the domestic burden of a working wife.
@aimichan: ya, yg tu betol. ada mcm2 jenis bibik, walaupon pernah tgk kurg dr 10, tapi semua nya lain2.
ReplyDeletetu tak kira lagi yg tweet tu. ngerinya.
@asma/jera: funny how some people think it's okay with the childstrap. ofc that is their own view but if they were to go out with their partners, which one would they prefer, holding hands or not? most men would agree that they prefer to let their gf "roam" freely while shopping, no? *insert smiley*
haha..plg kurg hg sedar hg spoiled asma.jadi kira ok la tu.
1 more point about bibik that I didn't write is some with the destructive nature. Kacau laki org, ambik barang, pukul anak, berkomplot dgn bibik jiran etc3. but that is making examples of the few bad ones. the cons that I tried to highlight is about the ones from good natured maids, about its effects
haha lepas ni entry, 'a friend asked hows work so in reply im writing this' XD
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