About the feeling that I'm always right

I'm almost 30 years old next year, so I'm almost set in most of my way
I believe certain things have to be done in a certain manner because I am convinced that, that is he best way to do it.

But people might not agree. Or they might not even understand what you are saying. They have their own way of doing things too

However I have realized recently that I've been stopping myself quite often from saying,  "but you're missing the point!"
Maybe the reason a person doesn't get your point,  is because you don't understand him in the first place.
So I thought to myself, it's not knowing what is important, rather it's accepting and understanding others is what is crucial.

I think I've earned my almost-30 years of age. Haha.

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On another note,  I bought a DIY shoe rack for my office. It required assembly so some of my colleague helped in assembling it, along with commenting on the design of the cheap rack.
It was a commotion.
After around 15 minutes the rack was assembled. Then came along another colleague who was sitting silently all this while and said, "Aku rasa kan, rak ni elok kalau pasang macam ni."
To which I promptly replied,  "Ahhh takdak takdak. Bila dah siap pasang banyak la hang punya aku-rasa."

Subsidies, Wastage, and Islam

Let us give a scenario, where I just came back from a Tazkirah(a session where people talk and remind each other of doing good, within Islam) and a participants invited to come over to his place. So I accepted the offer and then when we reached his place and he opened the door to his room, a gust of hot air came out to greet me and the room was brightly lit, with the sound of the news coming from the tele. You're getting what I'm saying right. He was wasting the electricity.
So I would ask him why did he left the place buzzing like a funfair.
"Elektrik free, bayar dalam sewa. Unlimited. Jadi biar ja lah," he would say. And my respect, my envy of him knowing the hadits and memorizing the quran, just went out the window.

The way I see it, 'brothers' or 'sisters' shouldn't be acting this way. There's a few reason that they shouldn't.

1. Brains and reasoning.
Kids sometimes forget to do things that they should. Sometimes they turn the fan on to 5, then left the room. So adults have to remind them, or clean up after them.
Mentally incapable people can not be blamed if they leave the lights on bright days. But what about the act leaving the lights on so thieves thought you're at home, instead of a light timer? Well, that depends on which cost more. It's something you can decide.
So in short, brothers and sisters should have good reasoning. They are not stupid. We are not, so lets reason if switching something on is wasteful or a necessity.

2. Values.
I wouldn't think preaching to a serial killer about not wasting the tap water etcetera is really logical. So he can reason that wasting resources is... a waste. But certain people waste because they do not value it, even if they understand the reason behind it.
The I-don't-care attitude.
I also think most of the West and non-Muslim, has higher values on resources and view the effect on the environment and society more seriously. Compared to Malaysia which has high oil subsidies, typical Germans doesn't waste as much fuel. The majority of them do NOT litter. And they view people who casually drop their packaging, "eh terjatuh lak pembalut, malas la nak angkat", as despicable. Disclaimer: mostly.
So then, how come we Muslim, who is supposedly to have the best Akhlak, when we have the same reasoning of power, are worse than the non-muslim.

3. Islam
One would then say, why should we do something to prove to the non-believers? "We should do it for Allah!" they would add.
And then, doesn't Islam admonish wasting? Saving up, not wasting and stuff, isn't that what Islam promote? What would prophet Muhammad s.a.w would do?
There's a tv program where they would stop people by and ask about a law, one episode was about
seatbelts, whether they followed the law or not. And then they would ask, what would Prophet Muhammad s.a.w would do. Point of the show is that, if a law is made by human and doesn't transcend our obligations as Muslim, why shouldn't we follow them? i'm going in a roundabout here but there's a saying that people say about Japanese that I've heard a few times. "Depa(mereka) tu bersih. Tak macam orang Islam. Kadang orang bukan Islam ni lagi islam dari orang Islam."
Yeah, hygiene-wise can be extrapolated to this subject, not wasting and being considerate on your usage.

Anyways, most people know these already but everyone, me included, needs a reminder once in a while. Ramadhan being close and all, why don't we try to increase our sedekah(alms) by giving charity to ourselves through stopping all the 'pembaziran'(wastage) in the first place.
Thanks for reading.

Thank you?

I haven't been updating my blog(s) much this past few months. Honestly I am sicked of making up resolutions to update them, only to break them later. I have also avoided reading other people's blog because reading them would normally induced a guilty, dissappointed-of-myself feeling afterwards.
The reasons for the lack of update, I think, is that I think too much hence procrastinate. I've read somewhere recently that the twin for perfection, is procrastination. That is not to say I aim for perfection every time I type or write, it is just that when I put effort into something, it is good to be able to feel proud of it. id est, I wish for recognition...

...which I believe most of us crave for. If you are human, chances are you're glad to receive recognition. Even my friend, who is a mawas, enjoys being praised and recognized.
Jokes aside, what led me to write about recognition is because during this few weeks of holiday in malaysia, there are a few occasions where I saw (and some, experience) dissappointment when efforts are taken for granted. When this happens, the person will normally feel dejected. On a corporation level, this will cause productivity to decrease. In personal everyday dealings, this will sometimes lead to bitterness.

Why must we be appreciative?
A friend of mine once quoted a study, where it shows that in regards to physical labour, humans' willingness to work is proportional to benefits(payment) it received. However in regards to office works, blue collar and researches, the case is different. Although initially the payment plays an important role and affects proportionally, it then begin to decrease and reaches a plateau. In other words, there is only a limit the mind can suffer for money. This limit however is raised when the person feels he is valuable and plays an important part. An example is a fictionary, but commonly heard tale of a manager, who quit his/her job.
The manager was a top player, earning big money and lucrative benefits, but his/her daily job consisted of appeasing clients and ironing out problems. Working hours are late and when the manager gets home, the family is in ruins. Children neglected turns juvenile, spouse questioning his/her whereabouts and lack of commitment, which in the end leads the person to quit the job, move the family to a more conducive place and live peacefully. This may sound like a drama but it is not very far from the reality today. The burden is so great, greater than the money can compensate.

A simple case from our daily life is the act of saying thank you. Malaysians are NOT accustomed to this courtesy. Some might see this as a situation blown out of proportion but if he/she were to travel to places where it is common to say thank you, he/she will be surprised how good it makes him/her feel to be the one at the receiving end. Sometimes a thank you makes your day.
On a higher level such as in family, common lack of recognization is prevalent. Husbands for example, have the idea that food will always appear on the table, while some wives only pout their mouth when their husbands are late to pick them up etcetera.

I don't really know whether I conveyed my point or what-not but I hope that if you get my drift, you'd try in one way or another to improve yourselves(and me, myself) to try to be more concerned about others and appreciative of their efforts. That, the act of trying to improve, is already a recognization of this writing.
To that, I bid you thank you.